How to stop dating emotionally unavailable men
Engulfment is when someone starts to want you back and the walls close in on you.You become overwhelmed by their expectations and fear you'll have to abandon yourself completely! I have been picking and dating men who are not available – emotionally or legally. I recognize it but I can’t figure out how to fix it. I’ve dated 2 men who were separated and I wasn’t sure if it was a pattern. It’s different when you know them in real life through social groups like meetup (where I met my ex).
Another cause lies buried in your early relationship with your parents.
I’ve been to therapy, read all the books, I meditate, I journal, write gratitude lists, and attend seminars… Come back tomorrow for another video that will tell you exactly what steps you need to take to find love.
But I do know that there is no shortage of single or divorced men who are sincerely ready for a relationship. Because for all the therapy, meditation, journaling, and gratitude lists you have under your belt, you still don’t have the most important thing: the willingness to extract yourself from bad situations quickly.
Another cause is low self-esteem: You wouldn't want anyone who would want you.
You can only value them if you are in the one-down position, which makes you more easily dismissed by them, hence abandoned (again).
Maybe you felt rejected or dismissed, or struggled to win their approval or recognition.